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Encouraging What Works
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As I thought about an experiment for this week, I recalled all the many experiments that have come before this one. That got me to thinking about all the many opportunities these experiments offer to explore ways of being that may have turned out to be useful to you in some way – that invite you to become more conscious, to savor life more deeply, to move through challenges more easily, or whatever else you may have discovered as you’ve worked with these experiments.
Then, that got me to thinking again about Solution-Focused therapy approaches, where the emphasis is on doing more of what works. As I’ve mentioned in the past, when you bring a solution-focused perspective into the foreground of your experience, you’ll more readily notice the things that are going right in your life, and the things that may not be in place the way you’d like them to be seem to automatically fade a bit into the background, or lose their intensity. Becoming solution-focused doesn’t mean ignoring or denying things that need to change, or things that are unhealthy or unsafe. It does mean that there’s a lot more going right in our lives than we sometimes notice, and there are many more opportunities than we use to actively support ourselves in the direction of what’s going right.
And so, for this week’s experiment, I invite you to review what you’ve learned as you’ve explored and worked with these weekly opportunities. Become aware of what approaches have added some skills to your repertoire, as well as which ones have actually helped you get through the day, or deepened your self-awareness, or added something meaningful to your daily life experience.
As you do this review, I would ask you, this week, to actively choose to do more of what works for you, or to in some way support movement in the direction of what’s proven to be valuable. Bring into the foreground of your awareness what adds to your life in ways that have proven to be meaningful to you and then spend the week emphasizing these things in your awareness and daily activities. Notice what happens when you intentionally focus on what’s going right, when you give yourself the opportunity to have even more of that as part of your daily experience.
Enjoy deepening your relationship with what works for you. Each day offers a new opportunity to choose to give yourself nourishing, constructive, and delightful input through what becomes the focus of your attention and activities. And, the best part is that, if a given day is a hassle and it’s hard to focus on what’s going right, there’s always tomorrow offering a fresh start, more practice, a new opportunity to play with exploring what works for you.
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