854th week: Choose Your Frequency
I’ve written quite a bit lately about frequencies and the foreground/background dynamics of our underlying wholeness. One of the practices that, for me, is an effective and useful tool in affecting the quality of both my inner and outer life experience is taking time to choose the frequencies with which I want to resonate.
As I’ve described a number of times, what I mean by “frequency” is the tone and quality of what we experience and embody, and what we radiate into the world around us in every moment. For example, think of people you meet who seem to exude a sense of curiosity, delight, kindness, friendliness, etc. And, also, think of people you meet who seem to exude a quality of anger, fear, harshness, etc. These are all frequencies, and they are the tangible expressions of the qualities with which we resonate and which we radiate into our environment—both consciously and unconsciously. Most of the time, many of us—if not most—are unconscious of the these qualities, and we aren’t taught about how they tangibly affect our internal and external experiences.
Another aspect of our relationship to frequencies is the fact of our wholeness. Everything we have experienced and are is ever-present as part of our underlying and inescapable wholeness. When I teach about wholeness, I emphasize the fact that there’s nothing about us we can “get rid of” or “erase”. Instead, our wholeness is always with us, with some aspects of self expressing in the foreground of our experience and others sliding into the background. In this work with frequencies, we aren’t being asked to get rid of negative or troublesome aspects of ourselves. Instead, we are invited to choose a frequency that we want to experience in the foreground of our experience even as we allow our awareness to enfold all of what constitutes our wholeness.
This is where I call on the metaphor of a kaleidoscope, which I’ve shared many times. When we turn the tube of a kaleidoscope, all the pieces shift into a new pattern. Sometimes, a color we haven’t seen for quite a while may pop into view while another drops away. This is the way I think of the dynamics of wholeness: aspects of ourselves slide into the foreground while others drop into the background.
For this week’s practice, I invite you to choose a frequency each morning—the quality with which you want to resonate throughout the day. Take some time to call on that frequency and allow yourself to experience it throughout your whole being, paying attention to how your body feels, along with the tone of your emotions and thinking, when you connect and fill up with your chosen frequency. Then, toward the end of the day, look back and notice how the frequency affected your internal self-talk, the quality of your interactions, and the attitudes you carried with you throughout the day.
Over time, I think you’ll find that this is a practical and quite useful practice to engage on a daily basis. Not only does it enhance and support your quality of life, it also supports being increasingly aware of the fact that there are helpful choices available that you can generate internally when you aren’t readily able to change external circumstances.
Also, a practice like this can enhance your experience of wholeness in positive ways. For example, some people find that when they are in a “dark” place and they choose a frequency that is lighter what actually happens surprises them. Instead of pushing away the dark place or judging it, the new frequency seems to enfold it, naturally allowing the darkness to move a bit more into the background of awareness. Accepting our wholeness also means developing more self-acceptance, and that offers a powerful opportunity to enfold our whole selves with a more accepting attitude.
As with all these practices, please remember to bring along curiosity as your constant companion. And, also please be sure to pat gently on the head any judgments that may arise, allowing them to move on through without your having to do anything with or about them. They flow along on the ever-moving stream of consciousness, so you can let that naturally flowing stream move them right on by.